ABOUT
Writer, Certified Integral Coach, Holistic Recovery Guide.
I live in San Francisco with a small handsome rescue dog named Tater and I do most of my work — coaching, writing, the long quiet practice of being a person — in this city.
If you found your way here, there's probably something you're navigating. A threshold you're at. A question you're carrying. A sense that the old strategies aren't going to get you where you need to go next. That's the work I do — with women, mostly, between their late twenties and their early sixties, who already know how to do inner work and are ready to actually live it.
You can read my writing, explore working with me 1:1, or keep reading if you want to know how I got here.
I spent most of my twenties making decisions I thought I was supposed to make. The smart ones. The pragmatic ones. The ones that kept me legible to my family and my peers and the version of myself I'd been performing since I was old enough to perform.
Underneath the legible life was a lot of drinking, and underneath the drinking was a low hum of something is not right and I don't know how to say so.
I got sober in September 2017. I thought I was solving a drinking problem. What actually happened was that quitting alcohol cracked open the bigger question I'd been avoiding for a decade — what do I actually want, and who would I be if I stopped performing? Eight years later, I'm still answering it. The answers keep getting more interesting.
Somewhere in that unfolding, the work I do now found me. I trained as an Integral Coach at New Ventures West. I went deeper into recovery, contemplative practice, somatics, writing. I started Self Made because I needed a place to put the work — both the writing and the coaching — that didn't try to fit either of them into a box that didn't suit them.
What I do now is sit across from women who are in the same kind of cracking-open. I write about it on my Substack. I work 1:1 with a small number of clients at a time. I'm refining a group program that launches in January 2027.
The whole thing is one body of work, even when it shows up in different forms.
What I believe, briefly:
Life as curriculum: In the words of Ram Dass: “You can do it like it’s a big weight on you. Or you can do it like it’s part of the dance.”
The body knows things the mind hasn't caught up to yet, and learning to listen to it is most of the work.
You can't think your way into living differently. You have to practice, slowly, over time, and let the practice change you.
Recovery is a path to liberation, not a sentence of deprivation. So is most other work that gets called "discipline."
The work of becoming a person is also the work of contributing to the world. They're not separate.
